The power of clear self-expression.
In all areas of life - relationships, work, friendships and personal growth, the ability to express yourself clearly is one of the most valuable skills you can develop.
Clear self-expression is more than just speaking, it’s a way of having your thoughts, feelings and needs heard and understood.
The biggest reason people feel their needs go unheard is that they ask through a fog of emotion.
Firstly, having an expectation that others should know what you need or that they can read your mind is a connection killer in all aspects of life. It’s terribly unfair to expect others to know what you want and then that can lead to frustration, resentment towards the person or situation in question.
We are programmed from a young age to please or not disappoint so often we try to anticipate the others reaction before we even speak. Therefore the conversation ends up being about the other person.
Here are some ways you can start communicating for you!
Ask yourself: What do I actually want? Am I being honest or pleasing others?
Stop apologising for expressing your needs. Instead of saying “Sorry, but” say “I feel or I would prefer”.
Clear communication focuses on calmness, if there is anger or blame, allow it to pass before speaking to that person.
Setting healthy boundaries is a big part of healthy communication, saying “no” without guilt is important to protect your mental and emotional well-being.
Your voice deserves to be heard, communicating for yourself is not about ignoring others, it is about no longer ignoring yourself.
Honestly and confidently expressing your thoughts, feelings and needs is not something that comes naturally. If you would like to unlearn that your needs don’t matter, please contact me to untangle yourself from those patterns or beliefs so you can communicate with clarity, self-respect and peace of mind.
