Are You Choosing You Every Day?

Before I ask you if you are choosing you every day, let me firstly ask you are you even a feature in your own life?

Is your life so completely wrapped up than others that it's like you're not even there. Do you plan your social life and your extracurricular activities around what everybody else wants to do, and then at these events do you blend into the background making sure everyone else is happy?

Do you often feel resentful and frustrated, feelings that you're trying to ignore, but it's actually your body and soul screaming at you to please choose you. 

So, what does choosing yourself mean?

Choosing yourself means that you are living your life to the beat of your own drum, you are accepting the life that you have, and you are determined to make the most of it.

Choosing yourself means that you are setting standards in your own life, you are taking responsibility for who and what is around you. You are choosing your vibration, and you are choosing your happiness peace and sanity. 

Choosing yourself takes some inner investigation. You may have put others first for so long that you don't even know what you like or what you want. You may have been a people pleaser from a very young age, so what you like and what you want were never even a consideration for you. It's time to figure out what you like, what are your passions? Start having fun on this journey of curiosity just to discover who you really are.

When you start on this journey of prioritizing yourself, the wonderful thing is it has this amazing ripple effect on the people around you, and what happens is, you are giving others permission to do the same for themselves. 

Choosing yourself is not selfish. This may be the first thing that came to mind reading this, this maybe a learned way of thinking as from childhood we were taught to put others first. This mindset is no longer relevant.  If you have been a people pleaser from a young age where your value is in what you can do for others, this may be a struggle for you. I wonder is it time for you to learn the caring for yourself and choosing yourself is all about recognizing that you deserve to be loved and appreciated just as much as anyone else. And the most important thing to remember here when you take the time to prioritize you, you are more present and available to others.

Here are some ways you can begin to choose yourself first:

1.Change your mindset.

It is not selfish to choose yourself first, this may be ingrained in your mind from things you heard in childhood and behaviors that you learned. It may take some time to undo this way of thinking, however, once you embrace that choosing you is a gift to you and is honoring you, and that this has a hugely positive effect on others, you will find your mindset changing rapidly.

2. Find a balance.

Let's be realistic here, it will be a challenge to choose yourself or put yourself first, especially if you have children or have always put others needs first.  However, you are investing in yourself by pursuing your own wants and needs, becoming inspirational for your children and those around you. So, start small, stop doing one thing that you don't like or feel guilted into doing, and choose what you want to do instead.

3.Be in control of your own life. 

Do you ever feel overwhelmed, or like you've been pulled in every direction. Do you feel everyone else's needs are bogging you down? It's time for that to change. You are not the only one in the universe that can meet these people's needs. It's time to learn to say no. No being a complete sentence no excuses no justifications. 

You are the only one who can enact change in your life, this is why choosing you is so powerful. You are committing to yourself at the highest level, and you are telling the universe that not only are you acknowledging that you are worthy of everything you want, but also that you are ready for it.

We have to learn to let go of the mistruths we learned as children, they weren't true then, but we had no way at that young age of knowing that. We have to let go of the behaviors we learned and saw that are not serving us now. This makes space and energy for us to thrive and for those around us to do the same. 

If you are ready for change and are excited about creating a world that actually includes you, a world where you are thriving, my coaching program can help you. I can help you get clear on what it is that you want and how you would like your life to look. I help you step out of those old patterns that are holding you back, bringing in positive energy and positive vibrations. I can help you step out of that stuck space that comes from ignoring your own needs and desires. If you feel this is your time and you're curious to know more, please contact me for a chat and further information.